ABOUT THE MINA POST
For those of you who read the incident about my daughter and the swimming pool and who felt compelled to write comments about what a bad parent I am (you can read them under the MINA post comment section), no, my daughter was not left alone at the pool. I was right next to her. This pool had one of these two foot wide steps which is maybe a foot deep, then it goes into the deep part from there. My daughter was squatting down, slapping at the water, and when she slipped and pitched forward I was right next to her and my hand almost had the back of her bathing suit but it was so quick it was just an inch or two beyond my reach. The way she fell brought her straight over that foot deep step and into the deep part. I was in the pool immediately. I wasn't off at a bar having a beer. I wasn't distracted by women. I was right there. Now if that still makes me a bad father so be it, but I want the record set straight on this one because my children are the most important things in the world to me.


18 Comments:
never doubted your parenting skills at all Jeff. So glad that you're both ok.
also....congrats on the job at WCSX! So syked that you guys are coming back on the air. you have been missed big time!!
November 17, 2008 12:44 PM
Fuck those bastards Jeff!! You don't need to defend your actions, or explain yourself! If they listened to the show they would know that you would never let her play anywhere near a pool w/o careful supervision. We know how long you waited before having kids, and would not ever do anything to put Jack or Mina in harms way. The shit heads that are yapping are probably the same ones that leave there kids in the smoke filled car to get a 12 pack and a carton of Kools, but since they can see the car from the door it's not going to get stolen with the kid(s) in it!
November 17, 2008 12:54 PM
I was 13 when my 2 yo sister did the exact same thing.
I was sitting right next to her.
Same results minus the shoulder issues.
Can I send you some snow for some sun?
November 17, 2008 1:56 PM
We have pool in our backyard, and we were VERY responsible parents. When the kids were little the pool was fenced, locked and had an alarm on the gate and in the pool.
One day my husband and I were sitting on the side of the pool, with our 1 year old sitting in between us. It was in the shallow end. All of a sudden my son pitched forward and fell in. He sunk like a rock. It was only four feet deep, but my son was only 2 foot tall.
It seemed like an eternity from the time he fell in to the time my husband jumped in (we both jumped in actually) and grabbed his leg and pulled him up.
He didn't cry. He just looked VERY surprised.
Now, 21 years later, we can laugh about it. Laugh about the surprised look on my sons face. But back then it was not so funny.
The point is, Jeff, you did nothing wrong. We did nothing wrong. Accidents happen. But it didn't turn into a tragedy because YOU were being a responsible parent and watching out for her.
When my son was three he jumped off the couch and smacked his head on the end table. He needed to have three stitches.
Should I have wrapped the end table in bubble wrap?
November 17, 2008 2:34 PM
Jeff,
People will think what they want, but those of us who know you because we listened to the show for so long know better than to think you'd do anything stupid like that. Kids, especially at that age, can tip over fast because their balance still sucks, and even if you're right there things can happen.
Congrats on the new show, I can't WAIT to be able to listen to you guys every day again! Even though you missed out on talking about the trial, you'll be on the air when Kwame gets out, so that should be fun!
November 17, 2008 6:27 PM
AWESOME!!! The WCSX news, not the jackasses that decided to grill you over the Mina issue . . . good music AND D&D, that is GREAT news!! Thank you for sharing Jeff and I look forward to your new gig! CONGRATS!!
November 17, 2008 9:47 PM
Jeff,
Some people just think it's their right to criticize. They are the same people that like to police people in the park and drive 35mph in 60mph zone. Don't let it bother you! Enjoy Cancun.
November 17, 2008 9:58 PM
Jeff, something similar happened to me and my family (niece, sister in law and ex wife). I was in the pool with my sister in law and my ex was taking pictures of us (my sister, her 3 kids and my ex sister in law were also here) My niece was almost 2, in her huggies walking around the deck near the deep end. she was playing with a ball and it went into the pool in the deep end (12' with diving board). My wife yelled my name and I just dove from the shallow end into the deep end scooped her up and tossed her to my ex on the deck on one motion. All in all about 3 to 5 seconds and she didn't even cry. All this took place in Louisiana at my relatives home near Lake Charles. Now my niece is a pool freak, always in the water.
November 17, 2008 10:14 PM
jeff, you'll find the biggest critics of parents/parenting are people who don't even HAVE kids. you did the right thing and until a person has walked in your shoes, they have no room to criticize what you did and how you reacted. children are amazingly fast without meaning to be - things happen in an instant. i'm glad she's alright.
November 17, 2008 10:31 PM
I am a bit shocked at the people that talk crap... again I have to repeat what anon said.. they are probably the same people that leave their kids in the smoke filled car while they run in..... no need to repeat everything, I see these dumb jerks everyday!!
Kids move quickly, it happens, you are by no means a bad parent!!! Can't wait to hear you again!!!!
November 17, 2008 10:34 PM
What kind of loser criticizes a father who just saved his daughter's life!
November 17, 2008 11:46 PM
Jeff,
Like the previous post, f**k them if they can't understand. We had a pool when my kids were younger and my son climbed the cozy coupe car to climb on top of the winter cover. The pool was gone by spring. My three boys have had stitches, a dislocated shoulder, you name it. Stuff happens. You are a good parent, no question it. I am so excited about WCSX. I am really sad for JJ and Lynne but that is what happens in business. Have a good holiday and see you Jan 5th.
November 18, 2008 7:34 AM
i knew it!! woowoo get a party together on teh east side guys...hamlin pub??
November 18, 2008 9:54 AM
I can't believe anyone would criticize you or make it seem as though you are a bad parent. You are a great parent, and it is obvious that you love your children very much. Things happen in the blink of an eye - especially to kids. Accidents happen, even when you are standing right next to them. The people criticizing you either don't have children, or are the parents of the boy in the bubble. Pay no mind to their comments Jeff.
November 18, 2008 11:16 AM
Great..... your story must have disturbed me. I had a dream last night that our baby fell in the pool and people were calling me a bad Dad as well!!
November 18, 2008 11:46 AM
Don't worry about idiots. You were watching her, and that's exactly what you were supposed to be doing. She was playing, learning, and discovering, and you were there to keep her safe. This whole experience isn't a bad thing, just a scary thing to dwell upon.
I was a lifeguard and swimming instructor for 7 years (and a college swimmer). Swimming lessons would not have helped. I taught toddlers, and those lessons are just to get them comfortable. 99% of them do not progress to floating on their own. So don't even feel bad about no lessons. You did everything right (except for hitting your shoulder)
One last thought for parents. Do not think that because there's a lifeguard on duty that you are off the hook. I trust no lifeguard at a public pool. Because I was one in college, and I know the hangover to sober ratio, and it's not a good one for us parents :)
November 24, 2008 8:50 AM
isn't it amazing how people can make an assumption even though they were not there? i am a person who assumes, also...i assume that the idiots who condemn you without real knowledge of the incident, are..IDIOTS.
a happy thanksgiving to you and your family, jeff.
November 24, 2008 9:42 AM
i would never doubt for a second that you do not love your kids.. i remember when you thought you'd never get to be a dad.. and look how things turned out:)
These people that condemn you don't know your situation. You were an attentive parent and thank GOD evertyhing is alright.
November 24, 2008 2:54 PM
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